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New Yorker Deidre Dare, 45, was sacked from her lucrative legal job in Moscow for “gross misconduct” after writing an erotic internet novel, Expat, while on secondment in the Russian capital, eschewing her real name, Deidre Clark, for a racier nom de plume.A spokesman for the City law firm Allen & Overy said: “We found that Ms Dare’s behaviour was unacceptable and totally at odds with the standards we expect.” This was a bizarre statement, given that drinking a colossal amount, having plenty of casual sex and generally disporting oneself with abandon are the standards – or lack of them – that everyone fully expects from expats the world over.Many are quite charming, though I am not talking about those out to secure a new life in the UK.No Russian man I met during my many years of being a student, singer, television reporter and newspaper correspondent would ever have dreamt of turning up for a date without a bunch of flowers.It is usually Western men, not women, who spend their evenings watching women dancing in cages and buying drinks for the uncaged ones at the bar.But there are plenty of Russian men hanging around those same bars and clubs in the hope of ensnaring susceptible Western women.I am sure I do not speak only for myself when I say that, as an English woman in Moscow, it is so lovely to have someone open doors, hold out chairs and light your cigarette for a change; casual sex often seems the least one can provide in return.As for the heavy drinking and promiscuity enjoyed by some, it is not that they are tempting comforts in an inhospitable, intimidating and often genuinely terrifying city such as Moscow – they are obligatory.
Naturally, foreigners were viewed as a bridge to the more developed and "civilized" West.
You don’t need to be a pick-up artist to know that confidence is the only “trick” there is – and that it is the same for women.
My anecdotal evidence suggests that expat women who date in Moscow don’t exactly lack it either.
“Russians aren’t the only ones [who reject American women]! In my experience, the Russian men who fall for Western women tend to be different.
There is no specific “type” of Russian man who does it – though I suppose that anyone who dates a foreigner has to be somewhat open-minded in one way or another.